A big Shout Out Against Favouritism

Reference: http://www.oyewiki.com/education/a-big-shout-out-against-favouritism-4-6-2017

This is one of the most important issue where each one of us has experienced it in a while or felt an inner voice that needed to be spoken out. Twenty two years of human existence and experiences as a school kid, college goer ,university student and corporate employee and being on both sides of the coin, I strongly resonate with the angry feelings of people loosing out to biasness.It is one of those nights, where you go down your memory lane and assess your life experiences and an activist in you rises , which forces you to pen down against favouritism, which definitely played a large part in your life, both good and bad.

Looking down at my journey, I felt it all started in school, where then , I would have described myself to be an average student and now a largely ignorant student. Ignorant not because I deliberately imbibed the value, ignorant due to not able fully explore myself and more necessarily because I didn't think the need to and even more importantly, I didn't value the need to. Schools are a place where children are like wet clay, which with time mould themselves into a certain personality and gives them various values. The point I want to put here is that, two driving forces in that time are the teachers and parents, negligence from either could leave the wet clay take any shape ,which may not be endurable. I do partly blame the quality of teachers in this, who often take the best of the students and exploit their interests and give them good exposure. This is good for 10 % of the class, what about the rest who vary in different skills, they largely remain ignored. Being a part of this 90% in my school days, I understand the importance and grieve at the time and opportunities, I have lost and my inability of exploring myself to do something do fruitful . Whose fault is it? I can't blame anyone , but it should be the responsibility of both parents and teacher to see that every child is given an equal opportunity. I have seen teachers taking the 10% of the students in all types of competitions and opportunities, unaware of the fact of the skillset required. What each one loses out in this partiality ? The ignored child's remains unaware of his or her potential, which is very important to know at the right time. He/she loses confidence and starts thinking that he can never match potential with the elite group and starts classifying himself/herself in every opportunity against them and feels he can never win. This favouritism also is bad for the favourite ones. I have seen cases where they could not imbibe the values of humility , kindness, the courage to accept defeat and tend towards arrogance.

Moving to the other side of the coin, where I was the preferred one. I agree, it feels good to be appreciated, honoured and paths do become easier. It definitely instills confidence in you ,but again, if I look back, I still feel that I have been evaluated once and forever and I am in no need for criticism. I essentially feel that this favouritism makes you to not be a recipient of negative feedback, which I think is essential for improvement, a major driving force that makes you do things in different ways. I have seen mentors turning blind eye to the mistakes and you do get this feeling of being detoriated and move towards comfort zone. In no way does this biasness helps you.

Being a part of a competitive world and corporate world, I have seen discrimination in various forms, be it performance based, gender based , salary based, status based etc. I have strongly ridiculed and certainly lost out to gender biasness in many ways. Here too , I certainly don't blame the opposite sex, but would certainly point out the attitude of the same gender towards each other is a cause of major worry which further strengthens these lines of biasness. Society thinking certainly infuriates you but in the end it is all in our hand to blur the discriminating lines and truly think out rationally and instill the quality of neutrality.

Moreover, mentors are very crucial in our journey, selecting such mentors who give you honest feedback both good and bad, can help you become a better person and the graph goes up. As a human, I feel responsible to stand and stop this chain of favouritism which benefits no one , and stops the society from progressing and instilling the quality of equality and majorly not exploiting the human resources fully which is the most beneficial asset to the society .

P.S: Their is no blaming of any specific person or profession. The points discussed are solely to enlighten on what we are losing out by practicing biasness and how as are role of a human, teacher , mentor and parent we can help fight against it and thereby improving and easing the quality of work and humans ,thereby leaving no space for regrets and anger later.